Hugging was invented for a bloody *GOOD* reason!!

"Hugs were invented to let people know you love them without having to say anything!!! A big hug for u" was the message one of  my friends forwarded me..Feeling the message i can't resist myself to write this blog..



I read somewhere back.."Disney land is the happiest place on this earth obviously they have not been in my arms"...so rightly said...as it was said for KASHMIR by some wise guy " agar dharti par kahin jannat hai to wo yahin hai, yahin hai.."..This  guy too have forgotten to remember the significance of eternal "embrace"..(sigh sigh)

I think I was made for *hugging* and *being hugged*...Its my cherished pass time..My favourite hobby..My ideal state to be in..It  is the inevitable cure all , priceless be all and ultimate end all..Its really amazing how a simple hug can conquer , transform and transcend...
feeling blue, feeling ecstatic, feelin victorious, feeling nothing ...The solution to all is a *simple hug*
 A simple hug may say that some one is there, everything will be alrite, that u did well, that its great to see you,
that u rock big time, u are my life, that i need u, that i wish these clothes doesnt come in between us and many more..

A hug must be full blown"jhappi" or nothing at all....when u close ur eyes and become  oblivious to world..Like munna bhai so rightly said it would  and should be a " jadoo ki jhappi.."" reinstanting bonds, culmi nating feelings, winning over the enemies!!!!!!!

ONE HUG CAN DO IT ALL...
So dear DH , gimme more and more of hugs for withut my daily dose of it!! I feel my body stiffen, emotions wither and muscles twitch..so the withdrawal symbols are pretty serious and i prefer to stay addicted,,..


P.S. hug to all my dear friends thank you for the warmth you bring in my every day life,...

P.P.S    sweethrt  DH i need a big waali "jaadu ki jhappi" from you that can bring my life back on a track..:):):):)

P.P.S  lately i have noticed  without a morning hug from my MOM , my day is tiffed like today..:(:(:(:(:(:(:(

"Guilt" as charged TODAY....!!!!!!!

The secret says that WE can categourize our feelings into two.....
GOOD and BAD
Good feelings consist of Happiness, Excitement, "LOVE", forgiveness, passion ,Sympathy and so on
Bad feelings consist of Fear, Envy, frustation,  anger, jealousy and so on..
Admist of all these emotions we always forget one very emotional aspect of our build up and that is "GUILT"
Probably because we dont know what it makes us feel...It makes us feel good if we get rid off it and it makes us feel bad when we cant get rid off it.
This G - factor is directly propotional to our conscience.I guess that this is how the term guilty conscience or guilt conscious was coined.
Why has guilt become so important emotion or feeling to discuss...........????????????????????????
Because when it comes to "guilty" everything else fails
Guilt pierces my heart and pricks my conscience...
Guilt tests my confidence whether i can move with the truth..
It  shows me how big a coward I am to hide my truth.
Guilts questions my self-respect..
Guilt gives me strength to face the truth..
It breaks me completely if the reality is too harsh too face...
It forces me to look into the mirror and look more than the 2 dimensional appearance...
U know it is :"guilt " when we can easily lie to others but we cant lie to ourselves...Guilt hurts my ego and makes me realize that I WAS WRONG...It gives me Sleepless nights sometimes...Guilt is when i have convinced other but cant convinced me..And there is a very thin line between guilt and REGRET...one begets the other..


Guilt hurts me most when I have betrayed my best friends, ditched my loving sister, or have lied to my beloved parents...Keeing everything aside this "G" can be overcomed by the three magical words which may sound repetive or fake but works wonder when u say them directly straight from your pure heart.."I AM SORRY" Now, I am sorry doesnot mean I was wrong and the other person was right but it means U value relationship more than your "ego"..
So next time to release the burden of guilt from your shoulders say the three magical words when u really mean it..Forget and forgive should be the way...!!!!!!!!!!!!!

A song for ' U " sweetheart..<3 <3

P.S. I am on my guilt conscience for what I did yesterday with my sweetheart...When she needed me the most I ignored to talk to her and disconnected her call..I AM SO SORRY " DH"

P.P.S Cudnt muster the courage to talk to you so sending u a sms and writing this blog..:)

P.P.P.S . I know like always though "dominating" and "demanding" yet "forgiving"  you  will forgive your "innocent" "down to earth" "humble" yet "cribbing" buddy..:) love u dh ..miss u...*hugs*

Have you ever got a HAIR SPA..????

"Have you ever got a HAIR SPA...???"
Today i was asked the same question and I had looked despairingly at the salon owner thinking damn..here SHE goes again.!!, trying to push me through one another service that i dont want..And what is wrong with people spending too much on frivolities that we can definately do without..?? I mean  HAIR SPA sounded something like so called "chochla" of big people with bigger pockets and the biggest of "vella" time..;) ;)


"Just get one maam" , she said with the eyes so full and assertive as if she is coaxing me to volunteer for some  mission of world peace..:P Post that she began how my dry hairs are begging for moisture..:(
"But i do wash them every second day with the shampoo" , I stressed (half wondering what these bloody ladies wash theirs with..??) I was then explained how my hairs are dry , damaged and some blah blah on pollution crap..Till now , being a science student i had lived on a premise that Pollution is fatal for lungs and breathing..But apparently like most of my premises this one too sucked and this time sucked my eternal beauty..:( :(:(
She had already made not so flattering remarks on my non toned and sagging skin , and my uneven complexion..I had finally began to wonder not about the so called "flaws" in my physicality but rather what the fuck was i still standing there and listening to her crap , waiting for her to rip me apart..My self esteem was wilting so low that it need a crane to lift it up again..:P
I told her point blank.."U are not helping ur own cause if U are going to pick my faults even worse than my MOM..;)) and finally she got a "jhatka" realising that she has overdone it and then began a butter dipped speech on how glowing my skin is otherwise and how soft skin is prone to problems in the old age and that my hairs are okay but just need a bit of pampering..She just saved herself from being crowned as the worst "SALES GIRL " tag..and almost started flaunting because I gave in for 1  trial session.


I was led inside a room and a little red lamp and candles were lit instead of harsh glares of bulbs and tubelights..Light music was being played getting me a feeling of drowsiness..When a handsome guy wearing an apron came and asked me to change into gown...Well i alerted myself dim red lights, gown, handsome young guy and a sexy lady..(lol :D :P)..But what the heck K  had got it done so who am i to act all TOUCH ME NOT..That wackiness runs in our genes when we wear salwar kameez also..:P 
And there i sat on a cushioned seat all set to get experimented...Why do the twenties have to be hyped everywhere to watch out for , just because they can sell different creams, scrubs,kits... I was then given a head wash and some cream was lavishly applied on my roots, enveloping my head , overall giving me a "FEEL GOOD"..Then my legs were placed in between an automatic mechanical massanger and i almost felt for a while that I had no legs at all..
And Then began the unexplained feeling..The guy created a magic with the right movements of his finger..He used the pressure to unlock every knotted and tired vein running through my head and spine..It was the most relaxing massage I ever had..In between i closed my eyes for a long gap and preassumed as if i have been transported to heaven for a while..The hair spa then culminated into arms, shoulder and neck and i was nodding with the immense pleasure..:):)


Thereafter begins hot steam treatment, equally hot coffee( no i didnt went there fore a free coffee..;) :P) , a hair wash again, conditioning and a well pampered me and my "hairs"..Three hours of such indulgence and i almost felt spoil..;) My hairs became so soft and silky that i thought my cluchter would fall off , with  the seducing smell and felt so sexy..:P :P
Post began my compulsive flirt with the guy..:P :P( sorry i tried very hard to stop myself but cudnt resist..;) lol) and u know what i said which i dont believe till now..i said to the guy.."Ur wife is a lucky woman if she gets this kind of massage everyday..;)) phew!! there i said it..and he just smiled shyly in response with the expression" God knows:" :P
(u know what  DH dis reminded me of the "bhaskar" incident 2 yrs back ..with a ease with which bhaskar was flirtin with us assuming "aaj to ladkiyan pat hi gai"..:P)


When i returned back home late my mom (with her black eyes wide open , staring at me with her "horrified " expressions as if i had done some atrocious crime..) i told my beloved mom how unbelievable was the experience, she mocked me saying that i only loved it because i got close to an actual massage by a guy (although it was just in my head litteraly..;)) Her suspicious eyebrows now got raised thinking what made me convinced so quickly..


"Ewwww!! i said almost offended not beause she raised a question on my "Ganga Ki tarah pavitra" intentions and actions but because she didnot trust me to have a good taste.."What, mom,,, dat massage guy was married , half bald and ugly" i slowly added although it doesnt tally with his features..:P..Ialso added dat i reject to have a package of 15 hair spa at a heavy discount so she should be proud of me as a thrifty daughter" ;) :P


P.S. an unbelievable experience, DH i suggest u shud also give a try once...;) 
P.P.S..I have once again fallen in love with my sexy seducing hairs..:P :P :P

And finally dis one goes for u " SS"..

People come in our life for a reason, a season or LIFETIME..I really could not see the depth in those big black eyes when I saw them for the very first time..But i knew she had something in her which is exceptional and which I had never witnessed before..;) ;)

Friends are made when some one clicks to U..one person U get so important in middle of the journey dat u share something and eventually everything in your life..one person who know what amount of shit you do everyday..:P ;) one person who is still not mature but U still listens to their advices..one person that is not available when U need them most but They will make U realize that U are not alone..:D

And instantly we became friends in no time..:) S as i hav observed doesnt know how to differniate people on the basis of anything..She never goes for an"outer cover" what matters to her is "the person inside"..The girl is completely free from ambiguity who knows how to handle the situations..:) and i m learning dis art from her..:P
A facebook aholic creature(and now i know Y..:P) , have an affinity for super natural elements..:P , cartoons..:P and a flair in editing pics...:) :) (love u for dat ;) ;) oh hello i m straight..:) ))

A partner in most of my crimes..(SPPM) , a sluggish yet stout hearted., confident and caring , honest and understanding loving and lazzyy  are the words quite insufficient to describe even a bit of her persona..S u was my listening ear when life was once really rough for me..

From breaking of my pink(:P) to hopping around WAVES, from military training camp to bustling around the college, from worst of days to the best ones..i am andwill always cherish the moments i spent wid u..



P.S. I appreciate S for her all time concern for me
P.P.S. Hoping that our friendship bond get more stronger by each passing day..

MY FAIR LADY...

With the international Women's day around the corner...I'll like to write down on the most influential woman in My life..
Undoubtedly, the woman who has had the maximum impact on my life is definitely my "MOTHER" ..She is one person who has stood by me through all thicks and thins..24 years into the marriage, she has never demanded anything..
M has brought me and K up as a balanced indiviuals, molding us with humane values..M  taught me how to create an environment of love, support and mutual respect for each other..She ensured we recieve an atmosphere of happiness and stability in a strong and united family..She provide us with a childhood devoid of any tensions ..

Having a glance at what M has sacrificed for us makes me emotional..Tears rolling down my face as I am writing this blog..M has supported me at all times...when i was low, depressed , stressed  and when things didnot work out..She had always motivated me and sacrificed a lot for me..She is my critique and most of all my pillar of strength..What she did for me is beyond what I can a  do for HER..I owe her a lot

Today I wish to thank her for all she has done for me..M you are grreat woman..Thanks for being always deRE..

THANKS FOR EVERYTHING...:)luv u loads...<3

i m a **GIRL**

**I will haggle with auto driver and vegetable vendor  for 5rs, but will buy a kajal for 400 bucks...**

**I WILL stand infront of wadrobe full of clothes and sigh..""GRR...I have nothing to wear" and yet I'll refuse to give any of those clothes...**

**If someone is ill , i'll give  them a medicine and  tell them to cut the drama and to stop over reacting, but will bring the universe down..if i 'll sneeze..:P**

**I'll mess up my room if i want..but if someone else moves in with a speck of dust, i'll attack..**

**I'll criticize Aishwariya Rai's nose and Priyanka Chopra's lips but will practise the turmeric and ream facepack all over my face in the onfines of my room..**

**I have no idea who won the Battle of waterloo or how many years the second world war was fought..But i'll know which star couple is getting divorced..**

**I'll claim to be modern, but if I see a black cat crossing my path, I'll freeaze and worry about what will go wrong that day..I'll also notice that it was very dirty cat..**

**If a tramp at bus stop letches at me..i'll feel voilated..iF any GOOD looking guy doesnt gives me a second glance i'll feel offended..**

**I'll forgive not forget...**

**I'll say "NOTHING.." when dere is quite clearly something wrong...

**If  I am  sad and depressed..I'll not try to kill myself..I'll go get a hair cut..As simple as that..**

**I may fall in love in an instant..But i'll take hours and many choices to decide what I want to have for dinner..**

**If i am angry , i'll not even look at ur face..**]

**Everything else seems ridiculous, but bolly wood movies and crappy reality TV shows make a sense to me..**

**If a girl is reserved, she's mysterious and intelligent...But if a guy is reserved, he 's spaced out and probably a closet rapist..**

**I'll retch after drinking a spoon of cough syrup ...but vodka and whisky will be next to nectar..**
** I may not remember who i went with school for 12 years..but i remember the mole on a cheek of a cute boy who was my crush..**

**I'LL GENERALIZE**

**I AM A GIRL**

Being a MAN..

Some stupid things have been continuosly blocking my mind..What is about being a MAN that fascinates you most...??????

If you would had asked me that question until about a few months , I like any other self proclaimed woman would have thrust my chin in the air and would have vehemently answered ..."NOTHING"! But as I grow older and pretty wiser too(:P Though my mom thinks as i m growing old i m getting more FOOLISH..lol..) I am forced to believe that there are certain things that God clearly has forgotten to bless  "US"  women with..)

I know my die-core hard feminist friend DH is going to claw me off for this..;) )
And i am not trying to mention some inconsequential  stuff like how the men can treat the world , how it is easy for them to dress in almost same pair of clothes and nobody notices them(:P), hormonol changes that takes place over their bodies , kids..blah blah.. <contempt>

Men , I  have observed, are blessed with oodles and oodles of optimism and more so where a lady is involved..If they set their heart on someone(or something), no matter how many kicks in the GUT  they recieve they will never give up..Women, I feel are big fool when it comes to LOVE..

The other thing i really envy in Guys is how clearly their life is divided into black and white, while WE girls struggle with almost 673 shades of grey!! Guys will always have chalked out things that they wanted to do and what not to do..While we girls will nervously keep shuffling feet and wringing our hands about the pros and cons of the decision we are going to make...how it will affect our near and dear ones..While the guys will go ahead, make the decision and either be succesful at it, gain experience and MOVE ON..!!!

COOL HEADED is the word that comes to my mind when I think about my MALE frnds..Inculcated with the high degree of flexibility and far more likely to grab the winning spirit.."WE" woman are overly aggresive ..But with this letter "M"  politiness is combined with "ATTITUDE" which makes a lethal combination and will make other sit up and notice them..


On the other side, it does feel like a blessing to be a WOMAN..but when i am getting late for the college and still undecided what to wear..(*wink wink*;)) or what gift to buy for family and friends, the NEVER ENDING  confusion whether they will like it or not, neverending guilt of spending more time with friends than family..:P or when I see my new jeans getting wasted because I have shed tonnes of weight, i really wish i could be a MAN...

Today as i sit  in Seminar HALL," amity university, moc, lucknow, up " wasting my time with S and M..u might be thinking what made me write this blog..Have i fallen in for SOMEONE..???(:D)

*SIGH SIGH* P.S this post is solely dedicated to all my "M " friends  for their perseverance and tolerance for me over the years..and they will love to read this shared on a global platform and publically acknowledged...LOL..:):)


cheers!!!!
ciao..!!!