HOW many lessons would you learn Chetu, before learning that "last lesson" from life..??? asked DH consoling me over my latest issue..She further added to my point that.."A gem is only a gem if people handle it carefully..once a gem gives others a chance to handle itself like a stone.., it looses the value..atleast grow up now...enough of the lessons learnt, take the teachings Chetu and move on!!!!
I wanted to explain DH now where was I wrong.????? If my friends ditch me then where is my fault.??.its their bad luck not mines..,...yes becoz gems are always gems and everybody cannot aford it..:-)) I further wanted to add an inspiring line said by BABA" agar hum sab kuch pehle se jaante to jeene ki kala kaise seekhte...????
but furious Dh didnt gave me a single chance to explain myself..her blood boils when I tell my same ditching stories again and again!! yet she has no other option to shake me over the phone and say" WAKE UP" chetu and I again goes into that same tunnel of darkness and fooled by some one else yet again!!!
Relationships are great boosters and bummers..They help you bloom and can cause you to wither..whom we choose to walk by our side depend on our quantum of peace and content..It is said we can't choose our relation..we are born with them..But then we can choose our friends-people who stick with us through thick and thin or we hope so!
I beg to differ..we don't choose nothing!!
It is all bloody-crap!
It is "they" who choose us !victims never walk up to the hunters to be slaughtered...we are caught at our unawares!
It is not that we conspire our friendships for give-and-take..it is not the quantity or frequency of communicaton either that we look out for..it is the quantity of assosiation being meaningful on both sides ..we crave and pine for friends like on the series friends.. a telivision show..but then it is all a wishful thinking!!
If you are lucky true-friendship glows on you and if not, which is genearlly the case..you continue to degrade and rote under the false shade of solace..and by the the time you realize it, the damage is already done!!
BAD FRIENDSHIPS are just that- bad!!
for your body, mind and soul..
jUst like BAD-LOVE that jeopardise your chances of falling upon the right guy to fall in love with...similarly BAD-FRIENDS block your chances of experimenting with truth..they leave u in doubts when u suspect intensions and jump to insane conclusions..they make your premises shaky..they cramp you with so much of themselves that you feel there is not much in you - and your think 100000's times before making a new friend..or trusting some right one!
We all go through "bad friendships" whether we are strong enough to admit or not...and some lucky ones goes through GOOD FRIENDSHIPS (my own post.. now see the contradiction)..
Get rid of them..uproot them..remove all traces and signs of existence..start considering they are "dead " for you..block all doors that may tempt you to return back once you give-in..realize your worth and to what lows there is the possibility of that"friend" talking to you..It is rightly said we invite troubles..-yes we do..we are humans..I may have a "use -me" tag attached to me or bloody engraved on my forehead..I may also have an expression that says "kill-me" because I dont want to face on deception again and again..
AH..dont let that human laws deter you..when you disregrad the basic laws of humanity..
Yup..!! " Bad friendships "are bad they go deep in you..while you are least aware..and just when you begin to realize- it's depth..it goes whoosh..leaving a vaccum then and there!!
Let me not create more black-holes..let me be more cautious of whom I let in despite the continous knocks on my head and doors!!!
P.S. Again thank you Amity University for a variety of experiences and people..You changed my premises for the word "friendship"..:-))
I wanted to explain DH now where was I wrong.????? If my friends ditch me then where is my fault.??.its their bad luck not mines..,...yes becoz gems are always gems and everybody cannot aford it..:-)) I further wanted to add an inspiring line said by BABA" agar hum sab kuch pehle se jaante to jeene ki kala kaise seekhte...????
but furious Dh didnt gave me a single chance to explain myself..her blood boils when I tell my same ditching stories again and again!! yet she has no other option to shake me over the phone and say" WAKE UP" chetu and I again goes into that same tunnel of darkness and fooled by some one else yet again!!!
Relationships are great boosters and bummers..They help you bloom and can cause you to wither..whom we choose to walk by our side depend on our quantum of peace and content..It is said we can't choose our relation..we are born with them..But then we can choose our friends-people who stick with us through thick and thin or we hope so!
I beg to differ..we don't choose nothing!!
It is all bloody-crap!
It is "they" who choose us !victims never walk up to the hunters to be slaughtered...we are caught at our unawares!
It is not that we conspire our friendships for give-and-take..it is not the quantity or frequency of communicaton either that we look out for..it is the quantity of assosiation being meaningful on both sides ..we crave and pine for friends like on the series friends.. a telivision show..but then it is all a wishful thinking!!
If you are lucky true-friendship glows on you and if not, which is genearlly the case..you continue to degrade and rote under the false shade of solace..and by the the time you realize it, the damage is already done!!
BAD FRIENDSHIPS are just that- bad!!
for your body, mind and soul..
jUst like BAD-LOVE that jeopardise your chances of falling upon the right guy to fall in love with...similarly BAD-FRIENDS block your chances of experimenting with truth..they leave u in doubts when u suspect intensions and jump to insane conclusions..they make your premises shaky..they cramp you with so much of themselves that you feel there is not much in you - and your think 100000's times before making a new friend..or trusting some right one!
We all go through "bad friendships" whether we are strong enough to admit or not...and some lucky ones goes through GOOD FRIENDSHIPS (my own post.. now see the contradiction)..
Get rid of them..uproot them..remove all traces and signs of existence..start considering they are "dead " for you..block all doors that may tempt you to return back once you give-in..realize your worth and to what lows there is the possibility of that"friend" talking to you..It is rightly said we invite troubles..-yes we do..we are humans..I may have a "use -me" tag attached to me or bloody engraved on my forehead..I may also have an expression that says "kill-me" because I dont want to face on deception again and again..
AH..dont let that human laws deter you..when you disregrad the basic laws of humanity..
Yup..!! " Bad friendships "are bad they go deep in you..while you are least aware..and just when you begin to realize- it's depth..it goes whoosh..leaving a vaccum then and there!!
Let me not create more black-holes..let me be more cautious of whom I let in despite the continous knocks on my head and doors!!!
P.S. Again thank you Amity University for a variety of experiences and people..You changed my premises for the word "friendship"..:-))
2 comments:
how many lessons will you like to learn before learning that last lesson.?? admiring the line said by ur friend dhruva..:))
It is right that a person learns by making mistakes..but how many mistakes?? too many mistakes at a point start becoming habit..and I dont want you to get addicted atleast to dat habit..
enough of it now!! chetu..
take the lessons and morals from the mistakes you make but plzz forget now and move on!!
everyone goes thru dis phase of bad friendships and i admit it..but yes dont forget everything happens for a cause!! and u realize that cause later..:))
life is to live and let live..:)
enjoy every moment..
2 r 3 years later when you'll be playing with ur baby these things will make u smile..:)
trust ur god like u always use to ..and yes trust yourself rather than trusting ppl..bcoz trust is like a piece of paper..once crushed cant be restore to it original shape..
HEIGHT of lessons learnt...
dont give a damn and start njoying!!
BEST REGARDS
ASHISH
Every thing in the universe have two views one is positive then other will be negative .Or u can say its your personal view over any event, as some one said:" Beauty lies in beholder eyes" same as the god has given us the two eyes to check them through both aspects. but the winning theme is when we efficiently utilize both of them. and have some productive result. it is worthless to prove that u are unique in his world, if system get influenced by the environment then it looses its identity or became environment itself. we are born unique and die with our uniqueness, don't get changed due to others in your life. god has given two eyes as for both aspects get through them and remain what u are since u born.
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