What WOMEN want................????????????????

This one comes in wake of request made by a dear friend of mine A ,who is counfounded by the womenly issues and baffled often and on by the biggest question that gives sleepless nights to the stronger sex: WHAT WOMEN WANT??...Notice the use of women and not woman..that is how he asked me..and that how it is..one woman is never enough..they want them all..!!!..:P

So I sat down to revisit this post which I started 2 months back, but gave in between because it had become too dreamy as if straight from a romantic movie...;) ;) just out of theatre..would you believe i told A that the man in the question should know how to sing...

so thankfully, i am rethinking, editing to bring out some grains of truth..
What is the key to getting women's heart?????

a. sex appeal
b.money
c.give her a big house and space
d.kindness and sincerity
e. persistence
f.UNNNNNNNHHHH
g. choclates/roses/ gifts as frequent surprises..
h."You tell me"/ "how should i Know lead "kindly 
A Bloody mixture of them all..and many more

So having mentioned these, half of which I still dont know what they refer to..what do we as a bundle of expectations and hope look in a suitor who is all to woo us????????

A WARM HEART
Nothing touches us as quick as warm beating heart..The easiest way to reach us is by showing that there is oodles of goodness in them and the readiness to take us to the comfort zone..where we can just be ourselves and know that someone is around us ..someone who makes u feel good about life, himself and yourself..he is not a joker mind u..but make u laugh not just from mouth but from heart..A warm touch..yes such a mere touch with no sexual tension involved..minus the complications can make us woobly in the knees...


A MENTAL PLANE
THis like a second most requirement for me ..The man in question must be able to provide us with stimulating conversations that we feel compelled to return to again and again..A beautiful mind scores more any day  over a beautiful body..and no doubt..there it does!!

A BEAUTIFUL BODY :p
This becomes third in line for me..though often it becomes" first" to pull out my interest..lol..but then every morning when we open the newspaper , we have 100 things screaming our attention..but whether what seemeed good from outside is worth from inside  too..and here again the first two takes the precedence!!
but then back here..a beautiful body..ugh..ugh..not the muscled kind plzz!!
i dont know why guys pumps in so much iron at gym in the mad quest for bulges. 
A fit body with a pleasant and smiling face is enough for me!!drop dead gorgeous looks are turn offs! a guy with loads of attitude brushing through sleeves deserves whack on his face..

Smiles do it all for me!..:))) why cant u guys gives us more of these....



BEING A MAN
Now i Love this word..something that is a contradiction in itself..A man with a hint of mystery..a man who is not afraid to shed tears in movie  yet hold strong when economic crisis happens ..a man who holds door for you outside a restuarant yet wont mind asking you to pay the evening out just for pampering..

Thats a man alright!  being able to hold himself when things around him goes wrong. a shoulder to cry on and not turn us into tissue bag...hopelessly unpredictable yet dependable...
And then treat me like a woman..and i'll treat u like a man..:))

STAND BY ME
Being able to support me..when whole world tries to supress me down..to be able to adore me even on bad days ..to tell me that I have gotten fat with just right amount of words .to pull me up when I am down..

That is what we want!!! care to provide us with this and we will surely be around..see i told u my version is utterly romantic..:P :P
And now I am quite sure you are already thinking ..like this ..no man would ever match up..oh come on ..we are always ready for adjustments,..we are women after all , a big fool..:))

but for now i am tempted to add these too...;) :P :P
should know how to sing...
should know how to burn dance floor..
should dress right suited to occasion
should have a good deep voice ..
should have good teeth and no body odour
should give us space and treat the right people around us who matters
should understand the day's tiding by our face and expressions ,
should praise us frequently and lavishly
should shower us with surprises and pleasant oness..
should never expect too much from us...
should never make us wait - for call, message or date
should remember the dates- ok not the day when we hugged- or when we first kissed..but anniversaries and birthdays...


hello , that is not much to asked..hehehe
see , i am just tempted to add ..not really added..so you can release that "phew"..let me get this straight now..what men "think" women want this should be the list above- his wallet, diamonds , likes ,out of world sex ,and other such inane guesses..they really don't count ...


There is a reason why sharukh khan is king of bollywood..reason why valentine's day has grown so big.and reason why some men score over others...


P.S.  Thank you A for forcing me for this one..laughing out loud..
I hope for all men that they understand us women
and for all us women, that we understand ourselves..

**Good FRIENDSHIPPPPPPPss......**

In life we have "come alone and we have to go alone." said S WHeN he was consoling me recently with life's gyan so called "duniyaari"..In life we live in big bubble of sorts, when one of it bursts , we latch on to another.. we are tuned to look for cozy zones, regardless of testing them first if they are for real or just with us in transition..

For having just couple of weeks before I discovered about bad friendships , its amazing that I realized all over again- great ones are around still..Someone once said I was a bundle of contradictions ..seems like I am hell bent on proving it right..

If one trust get broken somewhere..god opens other doors for us to explore.this was not said my any wise friend ..it has been repeated and used and even misused so many times that its has lost its importance..Just like there are people out there to take advantage so are humans to add color and meaning to it..

AND great Friendships and friends are just that great..---making u fly high..:-))They make ur life queen size..because u know some one is there to cater to ur whim and fancies..u know these friends would side by u whether u break down or cry..u keep the other fit by taking him or her up the  tree "channe k jadh par",by constantly appreciating what other has to offer..They made u forget u had been gloomy or sad or dumb or even numb ..They bring peace to ur mind which is otherwise used for wandering..

healthy for body and mind..Wonder y doctors dont prescribe it to patients especially the depressed ones..??
hmm..how the body you may ask?? well, good friends makes u laugh , not just ur blues away but also lead to blood flow..
"hum khoon badhate hain" should be the slogan of good friends..imagine the fitness level when all the facial expressions get involved in constant smiling laughing and smiling..the arms get extended for huggs..the rushing of blood..keeping us on toes So that when there is a need for friend to walk in, we may not be found lacking!

Good friendship are just that too good...

 May we all find our friendships to live with and die for...
P.S. I have found a friend to live with and die for..:))))
thanks amity university..:))

***Express your "LOVE" now....***

Hmm..I want to write something nice today..

Something that has an intention to make me feel "good" n too my readers as well..ah!

**sounds so flattering, as though i have a million eyes all glued to computer screens just to catch a glimpse of my next post...lol..;) ;)**

With new dimensions in my life and my perceptions all changing..I am trying to hold on the sensible madness that defined me..But today i want to speak of love ..The "unexpressed" love..I have a very dear friend of mine who is in love with a guy from a long while, say months which is actually long enough by today's standards..but but she has been unable to express it..

Now this "cupid playing" syndrome development on "her"  had several repercussions on "me" too..

1. I sooooooooooo wanna fall in love again now, for there is nothing in this world that gives you better kicks n highs that falling into naya naya pyaar..

:D :D

2.You can find me all puffed up for the task of bringing *do pyar karne wale* together..But in bringing them together I realized the cupid is striking me too..lol

3.It got me thinking so much as to why people wasting time to express how they feel..when they could have been wrapped in each other's arms..

I Read somewhere back that all of us have a default minds like closed buds of flowers and we suffer from one of many syndromes like..

--" What would people say?? I cant risk being that.."

--"Fearing what...if I am rejected..or laughed at.???"

--"would it be a death of good friendship...??"

etc etc

Thankfully...some of us bloom, but sadly many of us remained confined in our thinking..yes yes even for life!! Although we see passionate commitments in today's scenario , changing faster than season's fashion trend , there are yet a handful of youngsters who still believe in the old fashioned love..Saying themselves along with the L-WORD for the special someone....

I truely believe that whenever you like someone , you Must let that "someone"

know..All of deserve to know if there is someone who secretly like us a lit more than people arund us..It is such an amazing feeling to be loved! I dont know why people are so horrified or embarassed or cringy at the idea?? Even if you may not be able to love the person back,it would make you feel warm to know that u made an impact of some kinds and whatever u are doing is likeable enough *yiy ,yiy,yiy!*

Further , my dear souls in love, someone who coined the old proverb "Early bird catches the worm" did not do so in state of dizzy drunkenness...he made and still makes a sense..

If u would wait for the right moment in all probability, the right moment would come too late making it a wait forever!..Besides , any emotions if let unexpressed slowly start to rotten some vital domain of feelingsss..You become so used to of hiding sentiments,that even when one fine day you get into a committed relationship ,you often leave gap everywhere which you want to fill but u find urself unable to do so out of the dumb habit of being that way...

What maxima can happen????

He would laugh at the idea..??

Laugh about it along with him..pretend that it could have mattered a lot if he had said "yes" but phew , alas now it does not!..

And that stupid line" we can truely love just one person in our life" definately did so in a state of dizzy drunkeness!! we all live post rejections , even if friendship is lost , there is no way there cant be more or better ones...

Nothing and no one in life is indispensible...

And that line "mein uske bina nahi rahe sakti"  is too cheesy even for films now..!!

In today's world we people are mature enough to handle the fact that someone  has feelings for them..One doesnot let things go awkward or go in hyper tension just coz he knows another person in that room once expressed her love to him! He moves on by saying that he doesnot feel the same way and hence even after declining the  love he retains the friendship..

So express your love..say as u feel..love n be loved...for there is nothing else that matter on this Earth..After all we were not sent on this earth to create

 history but to love n let love..:-))

P.S. the post was for ur and my motivation...go n express ur love ...!!!